In Law 16 it’s time to make yourself a limited edition and never outstay your welcome. The more you’re available, the less value you’ll have in the eyes of others; time to cultivate that air of mystery and distance if you want to be desired rather than taken for granted. As we dig into this one, we ask how Law 16 impacts relationships and love, and is this, like so many Laws of Power, really more about about controlling your own emotions and egotistical need for attention than anything else? Dre also discovers hidden love messages written on the bathroom mirror, and Jon explains that we’re not living a life on rails – actually, we’re laying the train tracks ourselves… but the tracks are actually made of sausages.
This Episode includes:
- Your presence is a commodity and your value is not intrinsic – it all depends on perception and availability
- Does this Law contradict Law 6 – Court Attention at All Costs?
- How our monkey brains compel us to desire things that are less available or unavailable
- The politically correct script young men are taught about relationships today… and why it’s total bullshit
- The need to synchronise yourself to other people’s energies if you want to communicate effectively and go where you want to go
- Stalin and the Cult of Personality – politicians remaining powerful by staying off-stage at the right time
- Use a simple psychological trick: treat people the way you want them to act (hint: don’t treat them like they’re untrustworthy bastards!)
- The benefits of being open, but the dangers of being too open, too soon
- Everyone loves you when you’re dead… but you can get the same effect without having to die right now
- We introduce the hashtag #accidentalpower
- How to save a broken relationship – grovelling never works
Mentioned in the Episode:
- Our friend Nic Gregoriades (Nic Gabriel) – check out his fantastic podcast Digital Communion, with Thomas Faustin-Huisking.
- Our recurring favourite, the mind-expanding Finite and Infinite Games by James P. Carse
- Michel Foucault’s theories of the modern state and its need to watch you (and have everyone watch each other) – check out Discipline and Punish
- Neil Strauss’s Everyone Loves You When You’re Dead
- Dre mentioned YouTube star PewDiePie, but he’s too awful to actually link to
- Van Morrison’s song about Greta Garbo, who just wanted to be alone
- The uncomfortable insights of relationship expert, Esther Perel
Join us as we continue our 48 Laws of Power review, exploring Robert Greene’s provocative and compelling book, in which he lays bare the history, practice, psychology, and philosophies of power that ultimately shape all human relations. Often seen as a handbook for the ‘modern Machiavelli’, we take a closer look, beyond the hyperbole, and discuss how understanding and implementing these Laws can actually enrich your life personally, professionally and spiritually.
Jon and Dre aim to get to the heart of each of the Laws, grapple with their sometimes disturbingly amoral nature, and discuss what the Laws mean in everyday life (often revealing their own experiences – good and bad – when they’ve either observed or transgressed them).SUBSCRIBE on iTunes
Each of these original T-Shirts includes an elegantly presented quotation illustrating the Law.
Law 16: ‘Love never dies of starvation, but often of indigestion’ – Ninon de Lenclos (1620-1705)